The words we use shape our lives, expectations and what we believe is possible for us.
The Lies We Tell Shape Our Lives.
You know, the white lies. The words said to protect other's feelings, or avoid a long explanation to someone who doesn't merit it. The explanations for when we feel "no" is not enough of an answer.
No. It's a complete sentence. Here's why you might want to adapt a 'truth or nothing' approach. Words have meaning. Sure, you get that. But words are also instructions. Your body is always listening to what you say and think. Your brain doesn't know the difference between your imaginings and "reality". By the body I mean what you think of as the body and the energetic imprint, the totality of the operating system focused around it and informing all your decisions. When you use seemingly innocent phrases, to whitewash the truth, even with something so simple as saying, "I can't go to the store right now," your body is listening. But if you use "I can't" to replace, "I don't want to" because it's easier than saying, "I don't want to take YOU to the store right now," you're setting up a small dissonance in your system. It may be a small lie, and you think it may be relieving you of stress to tell it, but none the less, it's an additional stress stress. And the occasional small lie may not be of much consequence. But is it part of a pattern? If you can't stand on your own two feet and say "I don't want to do that right now," what else are you lying about to just get along? And what is the toll it is really taking on you?
The Power of Words
"Words become things --- choose the good ones" author, Mike Dooly
"Be Impeccable With Your Word" From The Four Agreements The things we say often, with each iteration, become truer and truer. With each repetition a bigger and bigger neural pathway is developing in our brains devoted to that statement. And an external reality to go along with it will be created . If I say, or think, often enough I can't do something like: make more money heal my body find a great love partner deliver that great presentation make that jump land that great job then my brain is going to create the circumstances that will reflect that and make it truth. Remember: words are instructions. Our mind/body systems are stressed out when we lie.. This is why a lie detection machine works. It measures increased stress. To reduce the stress we must bring our external environment into congruence with our beliefs. We have to tell the truth. Conversely, this is why making positive changes can feel so hard. You are trying to wrest control of your life from an operating system that is not taking you where you want to go. And it will fight you for control. And being a million times bigger than your 'willpower' it will win. Unless you have a secret weapon!
Tapping comes to the rescue.
With tapping we can relatively quickly and easily get to the root of the limiting beliefs that are holding us back in our health, relationships, careers, and other endeavors. We can re-write the operating system to take us where we want to go. When we use EFT tapping we are un-bundling the neural pathway that says we can't, and building one that says we can. And for most of the time that is a lot of fun. Letting go of stress feels great. And the benefits are life long, and life encompassing.